One of the largest adjustments I have found myself having to make in regards to parenthood, is how to treat my wife as more than just a mother. With the busy schedules we juggle around between the two of us its extremely difficult to find a way to spend quality time together. I remember the beginning of our relationship, all the wild carefree nights out at different restaurants and venues have been changed to mediocre events centered around our children. I love my kids and its hard to remember that there is another person who needs me.
If you ask most women what they want, they will request romance and adventure not just boring “how was your day my dear” small talk. Luckily, I have found a way to make sure my wife is always receiving the attention and adventure she deserves. Date night. Such a simple concept yet I feel as if men now a day have forgotten what makes this so special. Women don’t want the same old boring three to four restaurants each month. Spice it up!!! Take your wife dancing, to a play, or to a live concert. I guarantee she won’t be disappointed with that!
One of the perks of being super busy all the time in this world, is there are options to find these events. Check your local paper, I bet you find something about a local town arts festival, or a play by one of the many dance schools in your area! If your a little lazy like myself you can even use something simple such as Groupon (https://www.groupon.com/coupons/stores/stubhub.com). Look at that a quick copy paste gets you access to just about any kind of activity that will make the next date night not another boring meal or quiet movie at your local hang out.
Being actively engaged in your wife’s excitement will only further your relationship. Think of all the fun movies and television shows aimed at women. How many of these shows picture men and women as completely fulfilled doing the same boring activities day in and day out? Not that many. The reason isn’t some scheme to sell people tickets to concerts, its because television and movie’s aim at portraying our true nature. Men are portrayed as lazy and complacent never putting in much effort.
Surprise your wife. Buy tickets to a concert, a play, a comedy club, or an amusement park. These little activities might be a bit expensive, but they serve a purpose besides just getting her out of the house. They let her know that you’re not just complacent in your current relationship. Take your wife to a rock concert show her your wild. A night at the opera or a play lets your wife see a more cultured side of you. A comedy club allows her to see how funny time spent with her spouse can be! Finally, an amusement park will let your wife get startled a bit and cling tight to you. She’ll hopefully stop seeing you as the Dad of the house and more in line with the ideas of the adventurous kindred spirit you are!